A Letter to my Daughter on Privacy

I am writing to let you know that I love you. I want you to know that you won't always understand what I do. Please believe me that I have your best interest at heart.

You say that you hate it when I ask to check your emails, texts, or even Facebook. I do this because I care. People who would do you harm will creep in through these and harass you. As your father, I want to protect you from harm. Moreso, when you block me out, it's hard for me to know what's going on. I would much prefer that you tell me. Since you have stopped communicating, I am at a loss.

The little girl who is becoming a woman changed drastically. You're now dating, but hiding your boyfriend from me. You blame me for your problems, but never talk to me about them. You're shutting me out, and there's not a thing I can do.

Worse yet, you're playing parents against one another. Telling different stories in private versus public.

Character is built in these crucial years. I want you to be a woman of great character. The type of woman that could be appointed to a high office or build her own business. Whatever your dream is, character is the vehicle that takes you there.

Sadly, a midst the lies, deceptions, and misdirect ions, I am not sure who you are any more. As your parent, I ask and you retaliate. What I really want is to also be your friend. If I cannot be your friend, I will have to settle for just being your parent.

As a parent, I have to verify the things that are happening in your life. I have to make sure that you are safe. Since you don't discuss that, my last resort is checking up on you through any means available. I don't want to do this, but you have removed yourself from our friendship.

My prayer is that your children always remain open with you. Hiding nothing. An open relationship does not require follow-up. Please remember this, when you have children.